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A Positively Wonderful 2014

1 Jan


For some reason, as I start this post, I feel like I’ve already written something similar to this once.  I write my blogs mostly for me because I need to remind myself what I’m trying to do.  I’m trying to find financial peace. 

For me to do this, I must remain positive. I have to keep my finances positive.  I have to have more income than I do bills, and I have to increase the debt-to-income ratio as quickly as possible.  I’ve made remarkable strides in how I manage my finances.  I still have a long way to go, but I am improving.  I continuously ask the Lord to help me change the way I think about spending and saving.  I want Him to help me understand that it’s His money – not mine.

Last year, I posted 13 goals for 2013.  This year, I won’t do that.  I have only one goal this year.  I want to be more positive.  I want to be positive in my finances, and I want to be positive in how I think about myself and others.  One of the greatest barriers for me in relationships is my attitude. I still have plenty of growth to experience in my emotions.  I am not great at taking my thoughts captive (2 Cor 10:5).  That is yet another prayer of mine.  Many times, I allow a thought to run amok until it frustrates me.  This is not healthy and will not allow me to succeed in life.

Dave Ramsey talks consistently about how we need to tell our money what to do.  That is so true.  We also need to tell our thought life what to do.  We shouldn’t be ruled by our thoughts; we should rule our thought life.  Now, I am not quite sure how to manage this, but I’m on a quest to learn this year!  I know that we can ask the Lord to help us.  We can declare our thoughts based on His Word.  That is where I will start.  Please feel free to share your thoughts on how I can remain positive in this world where it’s far too easy to focus on the negative!

So, my goal for 2014 – to be positive.  And I’m positively sure I can do it because the Joy of the Lord is my strength (Neh 8:10), and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Phil 4:13).   

How do you remain positive?


A Tribute to My Broken Heart

25 Oct

broken heartI turned 37 this year, and I didn’t experience a broken heart until this year.  Some people might think I’ve been fortunate.  I disagree.

I gave my heart to the Lord shortly after I turned twenty eight.  Before I knew the Lord, I had no idea how to love someone and how to open my heart to them.  I walked through life with a cold, mostly dead heart, and I was content that way.  It’s hard to get hurt when I avoid pain.  I was afraid to feel anything at all, so I walked around numb to those around me.  Opening my heart to others was a scary place for me to be, and anyone who knew me before I gave my heart to the Lord can attest to that.

After I gave my heart to Him, I began to yearn for more.

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Conquering Emotional Spending

15 Mar

20130315-131131.jpgI have a longing to mean something to someone. To connect with someone and to trust them. There’s nothing wrong with that longing. As a matter of fact, that longing is placed there by God. God said that it’s not good for man to be alone. He knew we would desire connection, and He created us for connection.

I have moments where my desire for connection actually interferes with connection. Instead of drawing people closer, I push them away. And so begins the tug of war on my heart. I question how to approach the relationships, and I even doubt my ability to maintain the relationships. “Do I continue talking to …?” “Should I leave…alone?”

This longing for connection and the uncertainty of how to relate to others has often led me to find other ways to fulfill that longing. I’ve often turned to “stuff” to fix my problems. I am an emotional spender, although lately I’ve done a much better job of handling those emotions.

If I were to recount all the times I’ve emotionally spent, it would probably discourage me. Could I pay off all my debt? Could I have enough for a down payment on a house? Probably at least one of them. But I cannot continue to focus on my past. I can learn from those mistakes, and I’m certainly willing to do that. I have to focus on my present and my future.

I’m so thankful that I am on the road to recovering from the emotional spending that has kept me bogged down for so long. I may not get it right all the time, but I’m growing and learning. Where there is growth, there is life. I believe that I’m on my way, and I’m thankful for all the people who have helped me get here!

I am growing and maturing in the way I relate to money, and I’m also maturing in the way I relate to people. My relationships are richer now. My heart is fuller. And my relationship with the Lord is stronger. God is good and faithful to me. I’m so thankful that He hasn’t given up on me, even when I wanted to give up on myself.

So, here’s to growth and success. I am more than a conqueror! “Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.” (Romans 8:37 KJV)

In what ways do you handle your emotional tendencies?

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